Posts tagged: parenthood
All of a sudden my daughter just started using lots of signs and real words and everything. It’s bizarre. Like shit just got real.
There’s a little human in there, making her will known.
Man, I’ve gotta stop saying things like “shit just got real”; both because she might repeat it, and because people who are allowed to use lingo like that don’t use semicolons in sentences. Nor the word “lingo”.
I wholeheartedly approve of this message.
As a father, one of my jobs is to support and encourage my wife to believe this. The idea of ideal body-shape is bullshit. Health is one thing, but how you’re naturally built and naturally grown is something entirely else.
It makes me sad to see people go through a life-change and then try to reclaim some mythical, idyllic past self. You get pregnant, your body changes. You turn 40 your body changes. You have gastric bypass surgery, your body changes. The key points are that you were never as lean and fit as you think you once were, and there is no ideal shape that everyone is going to fit into.
And the corollary: change is always happening. How you are now is how you are, and it is a result of everything that has gone before and gone into molding you. Buying into your own myth of your previous self is like trying to press Ctrl+Z on your person.
Just remember: it’s all forward motion — there is no “undo button” for your life.
Sometimes you’re just another butterfly.
I don’t want to be just like everyone else, I want to stand out. Sure, I want to “fit in”, but there are points where I don’t want to go with the flow, don’t want to match statistics, don’t want to be the same as the rest of society. I would rather be viewed as a creative and unique individual rather than “just like a man”, or “like every other computer geek”, or “the same as every other wife’s husband” (or some other arbitrary label). This dovetails with another post I wrote about labels.
Too bad reality makes itself known so frequently.